When recently I went for a coffee with my good friend, he made a complaint about single women. According to him, even though there are many women who claim that finding a partner is their goal, they are usually so busy by their lives that they don’t really have time for a partner. For a second I thought that maybe there is something in it. When I was single I had so many activities, that I had barely time to visit my parents, and starting a new relationship was a serious logistic challenge. But eventually we (me and my then new partner) took our overloaded plans and removed most of the activities to spend time together. You know how it is to be in love ;). The problem must have been somewhere else. Trying not to be impolite, I suggested that maybe they were just uninterested to go on a meeting with him. But apparently that was not the case, he said that a few days after a vigorous conversation with one of them, he even got a nice text message from her, and he replied and then nothing. Bingo! The text message must be the culprit!
It seems to be so easy, instead of sweating yourself during phone conversation, or even worse face to face conversation, you can use the simplicity and secrecy of texting. A few carefully chosen words, previously of course consulted with your best friend, can serve as you best advocate in the eye of a person you want to impress. You don’t have worry that you will be blushing or stammering. Moreover, it is a perfect tool to flirt: all this double meanings, half-words, thrilling experience. So why do I blame texting for my friend’s fiasco? Let’s see:
Should I advise something to those who are starting a new relation, text as often as you like, but don’t treat it too seriously and whenever you have doubts about the message you have just received, talk to the sender before you finish potentially interesting friendship. And prize the value of an old good conversation.
As for the friend, he managed to ask the girl for a date. Keep your fingers crossed for them.